Monday, August 6, 2007

Youve been served...

so today i droped the kiddlets off at Gigis house and walked around my building to the front... got out to my car and low and behold next to MY car is a county cop car... so i sigh... open the compex door.. walk through to the door that leads to my stairwell... and look up at the officer looking down and say.. "Hi you are looking for me.. " and waved. kinda funny looking back... and there you have it.. before 8 AM and i am officially being served my divorce papers.

So i drive to work (eating my dry cereal from a ziplock bag) go in.. sit down and read them. Now at first i'm surprised cause its just the dissolution of a marriage papers and no joint parenting agreement.. which i know has to be there too.... and it wasnt. Anyway so i read them...

a) blah blah blah... irreconcilable differences.. blah blah blah
b)That without fault or provocation on the part of the petitioner, the respondent, Pokey, has been guilty of acts of extreme and repeated mental cruelty towards the petitioner, Dick.

Okay so most of that was not word for word.. but b) was.. except for insertation of pokey and dick.. but you get the point.. now wait.. I was mentaly curel with extreme ways to HIM?? Let me remind you that he was cheating on me, did not come home, and passed out in a chair when supposed to be attending our children... but I was extreme mentaly cruel to HIM??!?!?!?

WHAT THE FUCK!!!

So needless to say i left him a message that i would not agree to this and he needed to get it changed. to which he responded to me with a call in the middle of my work day swearing and screaming about me about why couldnt i just sign the papers and that.. "come on what did i think all those years and YEARS of fighting were?" and followed by... "You were the one who left ME witht the kids in that state!!" Once i stoped seeing blinding red i said.. and i quote...
"YOU ARE A PIECE OF SHIT"
Not yelling.. was actually quite calm about it then hung up the phone.... i mean.. i'm sorry but did he jsut SERIOUSLY blame ME for him passing out with them?!?!?!?!?!? Does he seriously think that if i had ANY indication that he was riproaring-passouting-drunk... that i would leave MY children with him!! HELL NO! hence the reason i came back and got them in my car when i saw how he was.

Well there was more drama in the papers... but mentaly thats all i can take for tonight. I must sleep tonight.. after all i'm impressed i'm still functioning since i am going on two 1/4 hours sleep right now....

6 comments:

Chris said...

Well, isn't he an ass. I'm sorry Pokey. That's pretty dang shioty of him. *hugs*

Diane said...

I know this feels like a personal blow against you. And I agree his comments where. Unfortunately, the wording seems standard verbiage, at least they were identical to mine. And fight as I might, I couldn't get them to remove the claim against my husband - and it wasn't true then either. I guess it just goes to show, that the process is not meant to be nice. I'm sorry!!

Spinakop said...

I'm going through a divorce too. Actaully I'd agreed to hang in with separation for my daughter but he filed for it yet he was the one who was cheating. And his grounds was based on my behaviour. I'm a very postive person by nature so I felt upset for a while but then I let it go. Because no matter what you say or do he'll never change, you know that. But you can never be defined by what's on those papers. I'm sorry you're going through that:-)

Pokey Puppy said...

thanks ladies.. i keep telling myself.. just because its on paper does not mean that its true. Not that it helps much.. and i'm not sure if i should get my own lawyer now.. just feel like something is being pulled over my eyes here....

Lainey-Paney said...

oh the drama.
but, if something weren't true, i'd have a hard time seeing it on paper & signing my name to it too...

Jenster said...

What a piece of work. He sounds completely delusional!